Pardon me while I rant (blame it on the hormones)
It truly amazes me the things I have had people say to me in these last almost 7 months I've been pregnant. I find myself often wondering 'seriously?, did you really just say that to me?'. I'm the least confrontational person ever but I decided it would make for an interesting post to blog about the things that have been said to me so far & how I wish I could respond...
1. 'Wow, when's that baby due? Today?' or 'Are you sure there's not twins in there?' 'You're so big!'- Even if indeed I was due today there's no need to comment on it. And, yes, I'm pretty positive after the 4 ultrasounds I've had I am NOT having twins.
2. When I tell people I'm having a boy.. 'aw, that sucks' or 'at least it's your first so you can keep trying for a girl' - This is the worst for me. I truly would not have cared either way whether we were having a boy or girl but I was and still am over the moon that we're having a boy first. We could have 7 boys and I would be just as happy.
3. 'Was it an accident?' or 'Was it planned?' - I'm sure I'm guilty of asking this same question at some point but I never realized how offensive it was until I got pregnant. Who cares if it was or wasn't? We're pregnant. God is blessing us with the miracle of a baby. We're happy. The end.
4. 'Babies aren't cheap ya know?' - Oh really? I had no idea from all the purchases we have already made and the multiple financial conversations with my husband..who so happens to be a financial planner.
5. 'Get some sleep while you can' - I'd love to...however my bladder has different plans for me and by 5AM my back hurts so bad there's no point in trying to sleep.
6. 'How much weight have you gained?'- would you ask a woman who WASN'T pregnant this question?? I hope not! Also, I don't know nor do I really want to know the answer to that question. My baby is healthy I'm not eating twinkies and coke at every meal, good enough.
7. 'Have you gotten any stretch marks?' - If I have I'm not going to tell you, again...none of your business!
8. The amount of random people that touch my belly without asking. I truly don't care people touching my belly but please ask first! Especially if you are a strange man in an elevator and it's just me and you..or me, you and 124 other people..still ask first! I work for a doctor and on a daily basis that we are in clinic about 6 out 10 people reach across the counter and touch my belly. I'm becoming increasingly worried that one of these days i'm going to reach out and smack someone!
9. 'You're too young to have a baby aren't you?'- I must have missed the memo where you have to be a certain age to have a baby but since you asked I'm 24 and am married to my baby's daddy but thanks so much for your concern.
10. 'You're never going to look the same'- Oh gee, thanks! That's just what I wanted to hear since my self esteem is already sky rocketting!
I'm learning to brush these comments off and tell myself that most people really mean nothing by these comments and don't see how humorous they are. But, if you find yourself telling a pregnant lady how 'big' or 'huge' she is maybe stop while you're ahead :)
Amen to all 10! Let me just tell you, I have already gotten those and this is my 2nd pregnancy! "Oh look at the belly!" I want to say, actually the baby is the size of a strawberry, so that belly you're lookin at is just my good old self! People are unbelievable, I'm proud of you for staying strong! P.s. I adore yall's name!
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